I’m deeply grateful to be blessed with a lovely daughter. But on a day like today, a lazy Saturday morning when my family sleeping in a nice comfy bed with soft blanket over them. I think about what it’s like to be a father. Not just a father but a great one. This is the level that i can’t reach some times but mostly i’m a great father on my best days.
As of June 23, 2012 I’ve been a father for almost two years now. In August, i will complete my two years of fatherhood. My wife in other hand, she is an amazing mother, she does everything and anything when it comes to take caring of our daughter Bayla, she’s always there to give her love and affection as well as taking care of me. She has been through countless sleepless nights, hundred of thousands lullabies, and on top of that cleaning house and preparing food for 5 people in the family. She’s a hard working woman and there is not enough words to express my feeling for her. She is the best mother, wife, daughter, sister and a friend. This is also a reason, i have been thinking about how to be a great father. So before writing this article, i opened MS Word and put down the list of things that i could do to be a great father to my kid and kids in the future.
The Three Rules
There are only three things you need to do to be a great father:
1. Be there. If you are in their lives, you are on a roll. Be there when they’re losing first tooth, need an arm to cry to, need help with their homework, play hide n seek…doing this making you already a great father. Be there for them in good and bad times or when they need you or not.
2. Love them. There is no excuse for not loving your kids. Love them so every time when they wake up in the morning, they’ll come to you and give you big hug and a kiss. Not only that, they will always be there for you when you are half way down to your graves. Sounds selfish i guess but love is not something you have to do, it is a mandatory especially with your kids and wife.
3. Be present. It’s great to be in the same room with them, but as much as you can afford to, be fully present with them. Shut off the mobile device, close the laptop, turn off the TV, and really pay attention. Play with them with blocks, read them stories.. Really watch when they want to show off their moves or wanted to speak to you about something they saw or heard.
That’s it. That’s all you need to be a great father. Well, there are some bonus moves, but those are just extensions of the above three.
The Bonus Moves
If you want some specifics of how to do the above three rules, here are some ideas:
- Sing with them.
- Run around with them.
- Make believe with them.
- Read to them daily.
- Dance with them.
- Tell them corny jokes.
- Paint with them.
- Make videos where they are the star.
- Set a healthy example by being active and eating well.
- Show them how to be independent.
- Teach them critical thinking, rather than just obedience.
- Teach them how to teach themselves.
- Don’t nag.
- Don’t be overprotective.
- Show them you’re proud of them.
- Let them make mistakes.
- When they get hurt, use that moment to teach them how to deal with pain.
- Show interest in what they’re interested in, and don’t make it seem trivial.
- Show them how to work passionately.
- Spend some quiet cuddly time with them.
- Make them pancakes with faces.
- Have Nerf dart gun fights.
- Play board games.
- Take them on hikes.
- Play sports with them.
- Show them how to use a knife.
- Be honest.
- Honor your commitments.
- Love your wife, and treat her with respect.
- Be compassionate to others, and them.
- Be happy with yourself.